Several months ago, I was surprised to read what
an old high school friend, Aubrey Schuring, had posted about her last four
years. She’d been in a sexually and emotionally abusive relationship all that
time, and now, out of it and trying to heal, was speaking out against sexual
assault, abuse, and rape culture, “an environment in which rape is prevalent
and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused” (Marshall
University).
Since the first post I read, Schuring has posted
and talked tirelessly, trying to stimulate discussion about these issues. She
volunteers with the Center for Women and Children in Crisis as a Rape Crisis
Team member, answering phone calls from and making hospital visits to rape
victims. A few months ago, she got a volunteer position as Staff
Photographer for Project Consent, “a non-profit, volunteer-based campaign that
aims to combat and deconstruct rape culture by raising awareness of the harmful
way with which it is regarded in society, educating our audience about the
disparity of discussion of sexual assault, and promoting positive dialogue
about the importance of consent.”
Schuring has created two photography series for
the campaign, Face Value and The Very Best We Can. In the first,
she documented the emotions of herself and three other volunteers talking about
their experiences with consent. In the second, she created an anonymous survey
about consent and photographed models acting out the emotions and stories
shared. That’s two stories in four months. But ideally, she said, “I would be
doing a project every week or two. But it’s been kind of put on the backburner
because people are scared to share.” It’s understandable, she clarified. Rape
and sexual assault are hard things to talk about. But if we try to talk about
assault, abuse, and rape culture without attaching personal stories, people
aren’t going to listen.
Even when she does share stories like her own,
Schuring says people aren’t always supportive. Opposition has come from all
directions, even family, although she attributes a lot of that to “a
generational gap”. The conservative culture in which she is based - Schuring’s
a Utah native - balks at the uncensored language and stories often used and
shared when discussing rape and sexual assault, and she says people “shut down
and they don’t want to listen.” So as passionate as she is about how she wants
to communicate the few stories people are willing to share, she’s juggling
between telling censored, dehumanized stories that people won’t listen to and
the more realistic, more painful stories she wants to tell that people won’t
listen to, either.
As Goldbard said in Human Rights and Culture:
From Datasan to Storyland, “anyone who wishes to make significant headway
on a social problem or opportunity must engage with people’s feelings and
attitudes about it.” She acknowledges the importance of telling these stories
in a way that even - and maybe especially - her conservative peers, family, and
community can understand and relate to. “Right now,” she said, “I’m trying to
find a balance.”
The Very Best We Can
Project Consent
The Center For Women And Children in Crisis